Social Anxiety in College? Here's How I Survived My First Semester

 Social Anxiety in College? Here's How I Survived My First Semester

The first semester of college is exciting for everyone – new people, new places, and a fresh start. But for me, all of this was not just exciting, but scary too. I am an introvert, and I found it very daunting to meet new people, talk in a group, or participate in a classroom. Social anxiety made the beginning of my college journey a little tough – but the good news is that I overcame it. Today I will share my story and some real tips with you which may help you too.

When college started – the season of fear

When I first stepped on campus, everything felt intimidating. People in groups were laughing, talking, and I felt that I would not fit in. On the day of orientation itself, I felt like I was having a panic attack – heart beat fast, hands became cold, and tears in the eyes. I felt I was alone.

But at that time I said one thing to myself: “This feeling is not permanent. Slowly everything will be fine.” And from there I started taking small steps.

Step 1: Chhoti Jeet – Start with a Smile

The first step was – instead of talking to someone directly, just smile. Whenever a classmate looked at me in the eyes, I would give a small smile. This was a safe way to build confidence. It took some time, but people started responding.

Step 2: Making a friend is a must

I noticed that if you have even one real friend, college starts to seem easy. I met my first friend in the library. Both were in the same section of books and I casually said, “Do you also like this author?” That’s where the conversation started. After that we started sharing lunch every day, discussing in class, and participating in group activities.

Step 3: Write down your feelings – Journaling saved my life

I started keeping a small diary in which I wrote every day:

- What good happened today

- What did you find challenging

- What did you learn

Journaling helped me organize my thoughts. When I wrote, I felt like I was able to process my emotions.

Step 4: Get rid of overthinking – Learn to live in real time

I used to think 100 times before saying anything in class. But I used a technique: “5-second rule” – if you have to say something, say it within 5 seconds, otherwise the mind will find an excuse to keep quiet.

Step 5: Took help from college counselor

Initially I was hesitant, but when the anxiety started increasing, I went to the college counselor. That experience was very positive. The counselor taught me breathing techniques, exposure therapy and daily affirmations.

Real-life changes that I noticed:

- My confidence increased

- I found new friends

- I joined a club – Writing club

- Participation in the classroom improved

Some Real Tips for You:

1. Practice self-compassion

2. Celebrate small victories

3. Take a social media break

4. Say daily affirmations

5. Talk to a trusted friend or mentor

Final Talks

Having social anxiety in college is not uncommon. Everyone’s struggles are different, but progress is possible. My first semester was the biggest test – but I passed it. If I can do it, you can too.

Just remember – “Progress, not perfection.”

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